Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage.
The human spirit grows strong by conflict.
Disability provides enough difficulties to discourage and therein is the problem, when difficulties are overwhelming.
Parents' responsibility and protective instincts and a child's dependency can lead to a struggle for the child to develop self and self-determination.
If changes are difficult or fearful, changing and evolving toward adulthood or independence may need a person cenered approach and planning to get reach independence
For the parent/caregiver and child:
Frequently reevaluate your child's progress and ask questions about their ability to be independent.
What can you do to make their everyday tasks independent from you?
Together set some next reachable goals.
For the person with the disability:
As a person with a disability, try to do as much as you can on your own;
being independent is good for you and you will be able to help others find a way to be independent.
Asking for help does not mean you are dependent. When you need help, do not be afraid to ask for help!
Managing when you need help and when you do not is when you become independent and the teacher,
you teach others the etiquette of disability.